Seek out other caregivers. The ANA website has a great forum with an area specific to caregivers.
Whether in person, email, or web research, other caregivers are out there who have lived what you are living. Connect for camaraderie, information, and support.
For acoustic neuromas, the ANAUSA.ORG website has a great forum that provides patients and their caregivers information and support. There is a specific area devoted to caregivers.