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Acoustic Neuromas – Sleep is no longer a luxury

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I remember being a kid on Christmas Eve, unable to sleep and waking early with excitement. Why did my parents want to sleep in?

I remember being a teenager and sleeping all day if I had nothing to do. Noon would come and go. One PM might come and go. It was shocking when I got a job and had to actually set an alarm.

I remember being a mother of young children and appreciating any sleep I could get. I remember wishing that they would sleep just a little longer on Christmas Day.

I remember getting up before the roosters to head to work.  Yawning as I drove in to work, I longed for just a little more sleep.

I remember traveling to different time zones and going from wide awake at night to falling asleep when most inconvenient.

I remember the luxury of laying in bed on vacation  when I didn’t have to get up.  I think stretching helps to appreciate the unusual lack of urgency. I also remember appreciating silence.

And then I learned that I had an acoustic neuroma brain tumor.  For a while following surgery, I was tired but couldn’t sleep because of the pain. I longed for sleep to escape pain. Then I learnedto go to sleep with loud buzzing in my head. I’m now used to waking up and thinking a radio is playing when the house is actually silent. What does silence sound like, I try to remember. . .

Now, the new me, even after years, demands sleep. I need to sleep well at night. I need naps. I need breaks from busy days. Sometimes my head demands that I lay still and rest. Sometimes my eye demands that it be closed for awhile.

Fatigue is very common in the AN world. Our brains are working overtime to compensate to the permanent/long term injury resulting from the alien in our heads.

What is helpful is for family and friends to understand that and support sleep. Knowing that we aren’t being lazy, but we just need more rest than we used to. Encourage that nap for your loved one. Offer to sit for a few minutes while out shopping. Don’t be offended if your loved one closes their eyes when talking to you – and possibly drifts off. Understand if a quiet setting is preferred – noisy ones drain us – and frustrate us (and those who are trying to talk to us.)

And ANers out there – Don’t feel guilty about getting the rest that you need. Take naps.

Gotta go. It’s naptime. . .

The Holidays – Two Sides of a Coin

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Yep, here I am I am on the holiday bandwagon saying THANKS. As an acoustic neuroma recipient, there are also things that I admittedly am NOT thankful for and willingly admit it. So, in the spirit of making lemonade out of lemons (forgive ALL my intentional clichés), let me see how many things I can turn around.

  • I am NOT thankful for getting a brain tumor, but I AM grateful for many lessons I’ve learned since my diagnosis.
  • I am not thankful for daily headaches, but they have helped me learn to live fully on days that are less painful. I have learned to observe more and appreciate non-participation at times from my quiet corner of a noisy room when my head is screaming.
  • I am not thankful for facial paralysis and synkinesis, but it has helped me focus on people instead of their appearance. I understand what it is to feel different on the inside than what I can express on the outside. I’ve learned that body language is much, much broader than a smile.
  • I am not thankful for losing the hearing in one ear. I am thankful for the hearing that I do have. I have learned to let go of control in some situations (yes, I have been known to be a control freak). I now enjoy seeing others lead and find it relaxing to let others communicate. I’ve learned to trust the people in my life to let me know when I didn’t hear something important, casually and without making it awkward by gently repeating what was said.
  • I am not thankful for having a dent in my head. I have, over time, learned to chill more and relax tense muscles. Inhaling and exhaling are underrated. I pull my shoulders down and back, releasing tension that builds on itself in my body. I’m amazed at the difference I feel almost instantly upon a posture change.
  • I am not thankful for tinnitus. It isn’t fun to have nonstop buzzing in my head that varies with eye movement. It is not fun to have roaring in my head after braving a concert, movie, or noisy restaurant. I have learned to be thankful for things that peacefully block the noise somewhat. Natural sounds of waves bring peace and solitude. Birds and rustling in the woods is pleasantly distracting. I find it interesting that the best sounds for blocking tinnitus are sounds in nature.
  • I am not thankful for the independence that I lost. I appreciate regaining what I have and value freedom. Conversely, I’ve learned that dependence is sometimes a gift for both parties. I’ve learned to better appreciate relationships and people in my life.
  • I am not thankful for the emotional upheaval and depression that I’ve had to fight through. While deep in despair, I remembered what happiness felt like and fought to find and embrace joy again. I treasure smiles, giggles, and laughing.
  • I found nothing about a brain tumor to be funny despite nonstop jokes that I made when diagnosed. However, I’ve learned to laugh at myself and not take things so seriously. Really, not hearing someone is no reason for humiliation or embarrassment. I’ve learned to not pretend to hear what I didn’t and simply ask for a repeat of the question.
  • I was not at all thankful to end my career early despite years of wishing (like most people) for early retirement. Brain surgery is not a good way to get out early. I did learn though that I have a passion for writing and it is something that I can do when able, and think about when disabled by pain or fatigue. I can connect with people in ways that bring community and mutual benefit. Even though I don’t do what I used to, I have been able to find a new place in life.

I could go on and on, but won’t. Overall, I’m recognizing that life truly is a gift with no guarantees. While issues following brain surgery are real, I’m alive to experience more joy and human connection than sorrow, discomfort, and isolation.

Tinnitus with Single-Sided Deafness

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ssd tinnitusAfter surgery to remove my acoustic neuroma brain tumor, I learned that the surgeons needed to remove my auditory nerve.  I also learned, as my doctors had predicted, that I still had tinnitus, or ringing in the ears.  It’s always there, but I have learned to ignore it – unless, like right now, I’m trying to describe it 🙂

Walking on the beach is the only time that I “kind of” don’t hear it because of the waves.  Walking the beach and getting a short break from the ringing is always soothing to me.

Many people are confused by tinnitus – in general.  And those of us who are single sided deaf finding it even more puzzling.   In trying to find answers, I’ve done some digging around and asking.  It isn’t really understood, but one description made sense to me.  The sound is in the brain — not in the ear or nerve itself.  The brain, struggling to hear, has turned up the volume.  Being deaf in one ear confuses the brain because there is nothing to hear, so it turns it up again.  Thus, louder ringing than prior to surgery.

Tinnitus is frustrating, because like headaches, you can’t always describe it OR prove its existence.  It has different sounds for each individual.  For me, it varies in volume throughout the day.  Noisy settings will cause the volume to increase for hours afterward.  It’s louder in the morning right after waking.  And I have a change in pitch if I move my eye in any direction.

Tinnitus is not currently curable.  Research is looking, and there are some therapies available that condition your brain to better cope with it.  I have not pursued anything at this point.

I recently learned of the following website, which has recordings of different types of tinnitus.  Mine is a combination of screeching and tea kettle sounds.  You may find it interesting to find your tinnitus sound:

http://www.ata.org/sounds-of-tinnitus